Question by Melissa S: How does my mother-in-law get her live in boy friend to move out of her house?
My mother-in-law has owned her house for 20 years or so. She has had a live-in boyfriend for 14 years. He pays no part of the mortgage, she buys most of the groceries, she does all of the yard work,cleaning,laundry & home improvements come out of her paycheck. Years back she borrowed this loser 10s of thousands of dollars for court fees and custody hearings for his son who is now 22 years old. He has not paid any of this back. She also co-signed on his car loan and now the car is worth 3000 and he has refinanced this loan several times and owes over 6000 on this vehicle. He has lost several jobs, is currently “unemployed” (as we question whether he really has a job at all). He has all of his mail sent to his parents house (these people are crazy as well) He drinks all the time and has urinated in her cabinets in the past. He has taken money from her son and justified it by saying “I buy groceries and he eats some of them” She asks him to leave and he wont. What can she do?
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Answer by lordmisrule2004
She can call the police and have him evicted. It’s her house, she can do whatever she wants. After she has him evicted, she might want to also fille for a restraining order against him.
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CALL THE COPS CHARGE HIM WITH RAPE
Things like this vary from state to state. Depending on where you live, it may be considered a common law marriage after this length of time.
She will have to consult with an attorney. At the least, she will have to begin eviction proceedings against him. That usually takes a minimum of three months after he has be served with notice.
She should be able to find an attorney that will offer a low cost/no cost first consultation.
Good luck.
If he plans on not leaving she could bring the law into this or she could start ignoring him, not letting him eat the food she bought, or lock him out if he goes somewhere. Im sure all that would drive him away.
ask him to leave now.. if he does not.. call the police and get a restraining order
if she did not have him sign papers of the borrowed money.. she is out that money.. lesson learned
the sooner this looser leaves the sooner she can move on and find herself a decent person
it’s up to her.. not you
just be supportive when she makes her move
legally all she can do is ask him to leave, then go to court for some free paperwork that says your tenancy is ended…”its called a 30 day notice to quit” once she serves him with the papers he has 30 days to make her miserable, but he has to leave at the end of 30 days.
She could file a police report that he grabbed her and she fears for her life and the police will remove him immediately.
or she can put up with him like she has been.
as for any money she lent him…consider it a gift. you won’t be seeing that anymore.
14 years is a very long time, it will be hard for her to say he has not contributed. If she can get him to sign over a paper stating that he has no interest in the home at all she might have a case, however if this goes to court it will end up a long, long , and very long dispute. In the end she might even be obligated to give him half of the sale of the home if it comes to it. That is the problem of getting involved with someone, and making it unofficial for such a long time. I would seek professional help to see the options, before starting any problems.
Do not seriously involve with m-in-law.let your hubby be with you.That only you concentrate and see heis with you and make yourself and himself comfortable.You may once or twice suggest him.THIS IS A BEST WAY TO BE PEACEFUL AND HAPPY
Has your husband got no gumptions? get him to get his mates in their cars go round and help in a friendly manner , grab this jerks clothing and what ever he owns throw it on the sidewalk and then him and his mates grab the jerk and place his rear on the pavement and say if you ever come back….
Where are the men who know how to be men now adays?
If he is not on a lease or mortgage with her he is considered a month to month tenant or a tenant at will. She needs to give him 30 days written notice and if he doesn’t leave when that 30 days is up she needs to call the local sheriff and have him removed. They will give him X amount of days to get his stuff and get out. If he’s on the mortgage it is more complicated. If she co-signed on the first car loan and none of the other loans she should be off the hook for the car, if she co-signed on the other re-financing loans she’s out of luck. She’ll probably never get the money back she loaned him even if she sues him so she should chalk it up as a lesson learned.
I don’t know which state you live in, and I’m sure the laws vary from state to state — he may be considered a common-law spouse at this point — however..
There’s a quick, easy and very simple way to get someone kicked out of a house. Go down to the police department, file for a protective order/restraining order.. on the order, you have to state your address. The order states person named can’t come with in.. what, is it like, 500 feet? Anyway, if you name your address as your residence, then by default, they have to vacate. Do that.
I’m not so sure you’d need to state eviction proceedings, and if you go that route be advised that he’d have all kinds of rights, actually — he’d be able to stay in the house for up to 90 more days, etc etc, and then he’d be able to appeal, and etc.
And then, there’s always the other option. Wait til this loser is out of the house for a spell, or even lure him out, get someone to take him to the bar or something — wait til he’s out, pack up all of his clothing and crap, pile it all on the driveway, and get the locksmith to come change the locks while he’s gone. Simple.
This guy sounds like a real loser.
Next time he leaves the house, she should have the locks changed. When he comes back, she should NOT let him back in. If he tries to force his way in, she should call the cops.
Nothing else will work.
Well she is going to have to be sneaky. If his mail goes some where else then that is great for her. Pending the laws in your state there are different ways of eviction. I personally would move any and all his belongings and put them in storage. I would change the locks and give him the key to the storage unit. Of course he is going to cause drama but, she is going to get that no matter what as he is not going to want to leave a place where he does what he wants and it’s Free.
If you want the legal way she either has to evict him by the laws of your state. Good Luck. Dirt bags like him are like cockroaches they move in but it’s hard to get rid of them.
She needs to write him a notice of eviction. How many days of notice may depend on where she is living (what state). Then, if he doesn’t leave then, she can have him removed by a sheriff.